"Last week, same story", Danielle begins. In Sara’s diary, a note from her teacher: "Sara seems tired lately. Moreover, Sara hit the same cupboard several times this week. On Tuesday, during math, it took her a lot of effort to keep up with the group.”
Notes like this only make Danielle sigh. Is Sara really tired or does she have more absence seizures? Or does she have seizures during the night and hence, wakes up tired the following day? "Sara will not tell," Danielle says. "She’ll do everything she can to be as "normal "as possible."
Fortunately nowadays Danielle better recognises the triggers for seizures. "Not eating well, going to bed a bit later than normal, breaking the daily routine, illness or skipping medication ... in these circumstances, simply slight changes in Sara’s behaviour reveal the tendency for more frequent absence seizures."
Eric, Steve’s father, recognises the concerns and searches for clarity. "It is often as clear as mud. Is Steve once again scattered or does he have an absence seizure? What's going on in his head?" Forgotten homework, learned the wrong test, took a swimming bag instead of the bag for gym, ... Eric is no longer surprised. "Reminders like 'don’t forget your medication’' or 'do not forget to turn off your light' have become ingrained in our evening ritual. And even then ... "
Yentl being uninterested or difficult? That’s not a remark Veerle often hears. "Nonchalant behaviour", on the other hand, is the remark returning every parent-teacher conference. "How to respond to such a remark when your child has absence seizures? Also for us, parents, it is not always spelled out clearly,” Veerle sighs.
Veerle admits that she herself is not the most careful. She is a bit chaotic in life. Yentl might hence have that nonchalant side from her. Still, Yentl's absence seizures do not make it any easier. "As a parent it is sometimes difficult to know if Yentl is counterproductive and you should address this sort of behaviour if she’s scattered due to medication or an absence seizure".
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